--- id: 20260808_181846_clerk-jennif title: COUNCIL - CLERK - Jennifer Wren Tolo category: Stories predicted_narrative_arc: crisis-to-self-trust sentiment: Resilient emotions: - fear - overwhelm - intuition - exhaustion - empowerment keypoints: - Second son suffered massive neonatal stroke and was sent to children's hospital - Heard inner voice say 'Just breathe' during crisis - Third son diagnosed with high-risk leukemia same day she learned of fourth pregnancy - Trained as integrative health coach, reiki master, and mindfulness practitioner - Learned to pause for nervous-system resets and put on her own oxygen mask first - Now teaches mothers tools to find calm in chaos one moment at a time summary: Jennifer Wren Tolo recounts her shift from critical-care nursing after her second son's neonatal stroke and her third son's leukemia diagnosis, which prompted her to develop nervous-system regulation practices drawn from intuition and training. tags: - clerk - nervous-system-regulation - integrative-health - motherhood-crises - personal-transformation - intuition-and-medicine sycophancy: 1 truth_score: 9 entropy: 3 sample: false consent: own_laptop agent: council source_session: 20260808_181810_e68b53 created: '2026-08-09T01:18:46Z' updated: '2026-08-09T01:25:53Z' vault_stage: 07_CODEX headwaters: COUNCIL prefix: COUNCIL enrich_status: ok enrich_blockers: [] enrich_method: llm pipeline_filename: COUNCIL_2026-08-08_clerk-jennifer-wren-tolo.md source_kind: chat proposed_topic: Stories lane: Stories voice: clerk active_voice: clerk voices: - clerk routing_source: carbon corpus_topic: Stories --- # Conversation transcript _Agent: council_ ## You Chapter 12 from the Enterprising Womens Book for the KB ### Attached: 12-jennifer-wren-tolo.md ### JENNIFER WREN TOLO ## Introduction Jennifer Wren Tolo is a critical-care-nurse-turned-integrative-health-coach whose chapter recounts navigating her sons' medical crises — a neonatal stroke and childhood leukemia — and how that experience led her to develop nervous-system-regulation tools for overwhelmed parents. #### RN, MA, CPT, PRM ##### “Whole Health Educator and Patient Advocate” Find Calm in the Chaos to Reclaim Your Health and Happiness. I was a critical care nurse, married to a surgeon, whose life course was pivoted when my second son had a massive neonatal stroke and my third son had leukemia. I woke up terrified, after the birth of my second son, asking, “Where’s my baby?” He’d been sent to a children’s hospital 30 miles away after a massive stroke, seizing. Other people’s babies were crying all around me, and all I wanted was to hold my son. Confused and overwhelmed my head was spinning from people talking at me, and all of the unanswered questions. Then, I heard a voice inside me say: “Just breathe.” Once I did, the fog lifted. I knew that once I was with my son, we’d connect and tune in, and he would help me know what was needed. I had to recover from what I expected the birth of my son to be and allow what was to unfold and reveal me my path. I had no choice but to turn to the voice of my intuition for a way to heal my son. I became an Integrative Health Coach and Educator, an ACE Certified Personal Trainer, Certified Karuna Reiki Master and Certified Mindful- ness Practitioner and Educator. My third son was diagnosed with high risk acute lymphoblastic leuke- mia on the very day I found out I was carrying was my fourth son. This time, I had the tools and I knew how to trust myself to help my son navigate his cancer treatments and get well. My own health suffered as a warrior mom, constantly prepping for battle, stuck in fight or flight, exhausted and depleted. Finally, I realized that I had to put my own oxygen mask on first before I could be there for my family. I needed to deal with the emotions and stress of my busy life before I burned out completely. #### Find Calm in the Chaos to Reclaim Health & Happiness My passion and purpose is helping mothers of children with special challenges and anyone working with children to find calm in the chaos of life. Learn to take back power over their health and happiness. My boys and I are all healthy and strong. We have learned to adjust, re- set and grow one empowered moment at a time. I healed myself from chronic fatigue, depression, gastrointestinal problems, and migraines. To find calm in the chaos of my life, and reset my nervous system, I dis- ciplined myself to take pauses or mindful moments throughout my day. Until I take care of myself, I cannot be as effective, listen to my intuition or be there for my kids in the manner in which I desire, and they need. Creating time throughout the day, even just two minutes, helps me to pause with the purpose of resetting my “fight or flight”, and allowing me to find my calm. THEN I can tune into the wisdom of my mind, body and spirit to regain control of my health and happiness. In my experience, resetting one’s health and happiness is done so one choice, one thought, one conscious action, and one moment at a time. I bridge the gaps in healthcare and healing by connecting modern medicine with alternative healing. Connecting science and intuition. Self-care with caring for others, and connecting adults with their kids. Tools I gained and implemented from nursing, motherhood, inte- grative nutrition, mindfulness, intuition, reiki and energy balancing techniques, personal training, yoga and meditation help me, and my family. Leading by example, I share these tools and strategies with mothers and children who are seeking to center and calm the chaos of life. Helping teach others how to connect to their mind, body and spirit needs enable me to help them achieve health and healing beginnings. Learning how to regulate one’s nervous system starts by creating the time required to slow down and truly be present in life. Time to heal from within our self through empowerment, perspective and purpose. My wisdom and knowledge comes from professional as well as per- sonal experience from a grounded and ‘real’ place. This allows me to connect heart to heart with those seeking to take back control of their health and happiness, one choice, one action, one thought at a time. #### Find Calm in the Chaos to Reclaim Health & Happiness ##### 'POWER IN NOW' FREE Masterclass In this FREE masterclass, you will discover what your hidden stressors are and how they are taking your power from you and throwing you off the path of living a connected, happy and fulfilling life! Three things that can lead to a stress spin 1. The Key secret to growth and opportunity 2. Where You have the greatest power 3. Plus MORE! **REGISTER:** Jenwrentolo.liquidfunnels.com/free ##### 'STRESS S.O.S' Online Course This is an introductory level course for those mom’s/ Parent’s or women who are overwhelmed, headed for or in burnout as they have been stuck in survival mode. 1. You know something needs to change but have no idea where to start. 2. Are you exhausted, anxious, maybe even depressed? 3. Are you caught in a stress spin? 4. Do you feel always on edge and find yourself snapping or reacting to people around you? **REGISTER:** Jensos.liquidfunnels.com/sos-checkout Then this may be a great place to get started taking back your power over your mind and body while beginning to connect with your spirit. ##### Find Calm In The Chaos Group Coaching Course Do you find yourself looking to others to tell you what you need, what is right for you and what to do? This course is for the parent, mom or woman who is in the “pleasing others” or “perfectionist” trap. You have some awareness around self-care strategies, but you continue to get caught in either the worry cycle, or the keeping up with the demands of society. **This program will teach you:** How to tackle anxiety when overwhelmed by uncertainty. The 1-2-3, A, B, C’s of connecting to your own truth. How to go from being triggered to more ease and flow. Schedule a FREE Clarity Call. Discover which course is right for you! Calandly.com/jen-351/clarity-call-with-jen-30-min-yt ### WHAT OTHERS SAY *“Working with Jen is like, she takes all the* *puzzle pieces I had and she not only puts* *them together in a clear picture, but she* *helped me make sense of what I was seeing* *and experiencing. I didn’t realize how many* *things actually impacted my life and my hap-* *piness. I came to her for nutrition help, but* *got so much more!”* -Megara Woods *“After just a few weeks working with Jen, I* *have more tools to calm myself down and I* *am better able to notice when I am getting* *stressed. I still have moments of anxiety and* *overwhelm, but I am noticing when it starts* *and why. My friends have noticed I seem bit* *calmer too!”* -Jessica D., Special Education Teacher, Mom of 2 *"Jen has truly helped me understand the* *importance of boundaries and speaking up* *when something is bothering me. Before* *working with Jen, I would have gone along* *stewing inside but keeping all in as I never* *want to let people down. I didn’t realize how* *much stress this was actually creating in* *my life. Now, I have found my voice and set* *boundaries which allows me more moments* *of peace, more joy and more time to focus on* *what I love.”* -Gwen Cook, International Executive Mom of two fur babies *“When I first started working with Jen, I was* *finding myself triggered and emotional over* *the smallest things. After just a few sessions,* *Jen taught me the power of the pause and the* *importance of resetting my nervous system.* *Just a few simple tools started me on my path* *to being able to really connect to what it was* *I really needed for not only MY health and* *happiness, but my kiddos too.”* -Sara Roizen Art Therapist and Mother of 2 ### DID YOU KNOW Stress, or chronic stress, is one of the leading disruptors to health and happiness. Stress impacts the gut microbiome and digestion, reproduction, circulation, mood, metabolism and cravings like sugar and caffeine. There are hidden stressors in life you may not be aware of like over or under exercise, sugar consumption, environmental stressors like chemicals, metals, and energy (people in environment and cosmic energy) as well as spiritual stress like feeling alone and unsupported. When we take pauses on purpose and take deep breaths, and tune into our It only takes 2 minutes to reset your nervous system and lower heart rate. mind and body, we can activate the relaxation response. Your energy, stress, anxiety and distraction can impact that of your kids, your family, your pets and your co-workers. When you regulate your own energy and emotions, and calm the chaos inside yourself, you can positively influ- ence the energy and mood of the people in your environment. Calm and peace ripple from the inside out. Extremes, such as in diets, exercise and approach to, or belief about life (health care, politics, definition of success) can throw us out of balance? Think of a pendulum. When it swings far one way, to correct and balance, it swings far the other way. It takes longer to settle in the middle. Dan Siegel, author of Whole Brain Child, talks of wellbeing as like a river. Total balance and wellness is floating in the middle of the river, adjusting to bumps and curves along the way. On the banks of the river are chaos and control. When we resist the “flow”, we try to control and hang tightly to one bank. When our control slips, we bounce over to the other bank, chaos. Then, to move off the bank of chaos, we cling to control, bouncing back and forth from bank to bank versus flowing comfortably in the river of wellbeing. We can only control ourselves, our choices, our thoughts and our actions or reactions. We can only control the present moment, not the past or the future. We can learn and grow from the past, and influence the future with choices in the present moment. Everything else, we need to let go of and flow, versus resist. This is how you begin to calm the chaos of life… from inside self. ### NEXT STEP Schedule a Complimentary CLARITY Call. ##### Jennifer Wren Tolo JenniferWrenTolo.com Jen@JenniferWrenTolo.com Click to Text (978) 290-1938 Youtube.com/@jenniferwrentolo5543 Facebook.com/jenniferwren.tolo Instagram.com/jenwrentolo ## Summary - Became an Integrative Health Coach and Educator, ACE Certified Personal Trainer, Karuna Reiki Master, and Certified Mindfulness Practitioner after her sons' health emergencies. - Focuses on helping mothers of children with special challenges find "calm in the chaos." - Offers a free "Power in Now" masterclass, a "Stress S.O.S." online course, and group coaching. - Contact: JenniferWrenTolo.com, (978) 290-1938. ## Clerk **Received.** Jennifer Wren Tolo’s chapter is now held in the KB — the nurse who heard “just breathe” in the middle of her son’s neonatal stroke, then walked the same road again with leukemia, and turned those scars into nervous-system tools so other mothers don’t have to stay stuck in fight-or-flight. The through-line is clear: she learned she had to put her own oxygen mask on first before she could be present for her children. I’m here with it. Take your time. --- _PRISM refractions and Sherlock notes may be appended to this item in later turns._